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Bumble, flimsy excuses, no second date, OKCupid, one and done, online dating, onwards and forward, plenty of fish in the sea
“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.” ― The Art of Loving
The second date with the finance guy never happened. He texted me on Friday to cancel, saying he had to drive his elderly father somewhere.
I suspected it was an excuse, and I felt fine about it. We had a couple of more texts that day. This morning I realized he never texted again. Then I noticed that he had closed his account on Bumble.
Even though I am fine with it, as we didn’t really have much chemistry, I am still disappointed that he made an excuse to cancel the date instead of just telling me he was no longer interested.
I texted him, not mentioning I had seen he was no longer on Bumble.
Now I have closure! lol, who needs closure after 1 date? I do!
I wished him luck, and I mean it. He is a good guy, very busy with a test that he needs to take, and we are not a match. Life goes on. NEXT!!
“Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.” ―
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
No emotional connection and not much time spent on it. So both parties can move on and look for the next person. Hard to connect during the holiday season with family obligations etc. Best as always.
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Hi Robbie,
yes, that was perfectly put! We had a good dinner and that was it.
Thank you and blessings to you! ♥♥
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Good for you for confronting! Hopefully he learns from this. Honesty is always better than excuses.
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Hi Laura,
Even though it was really unnecessary, I wanted to hear the truth and not a lame excuse.
We are not teenagers, and it was only 1 date, so I don’t get why lie.
Thank you for the visit and blessings to you! ♥♥
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Yes, seriously! Blessings back ⭐️✨
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He respects so he will find his happiness. I join you to wish him well.
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Hi Cassa,
Correct. Even though I rather hear the truth, I think his white lie about driving his father, was his misguided way of being kind.
Blessings! ♥♥
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💜 Head or Heart; perhaps a Balance of Both
…💛💚💙…
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Hi Yernasia,
I do aim to have a balance between the two, but one is always stronger than the other.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Oh well… at least you know. It seem though you always have to ask…. oh these men…. 🙂
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Hi Ute,
I am glad to know for sure and not let the days keep going without any sign.
And yes, it is crazy to have to ask…
Blessings to you! ❤️❤
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Hmmm. I suspect you would find kitty litter around his apartment 😉
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Hahaha, I think you are right. ❤❤
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Good that you are taking life as it comes and moving on. Have a great life🙏🌹🙏
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Hi Jas Krish,
I am trying 🙂
Thank you and blessings to you! ♥♥
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🙏🌹🙏
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I liked that you were not reticent about following up with him. You are strong and you also opened the door for him to be honest. It was a date, the goal was to meet which you did. Both of you want to meet someone that excites both of you about another date, it didn’t happen but it doesn’t mean that either of you were at fault. It has to be hard though not to feel disappointed or worn out from the process.
I hope fun dates and good people are ahead next week – maybe not Romeo but at least laughs and someone to share a nice meal or movie with.
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Hi David,
Your comment is spot on! 🙂
I only get a bit disappointed when everything seems perfect on the first date, when there is chemistry, conversation, humor, etc. In this case I knew there was not chemistry, but still I was willing to try a second date. I am glad he decided for me.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Good that he gave closure! I think as we are older, sometimes we THINK we want to be with someone, then — like him — go on a date and realize maybe life alone is fine, we don’t want to put the work into a relationship. I know I feel that way most of the time. PLUS COVID has made people grumpy, sad, etc. So, you met someone new, you mentioned not for you either. TIME to CREATE a MOSAIC for Christmas!! Something SPARKLING and BEAUTIFUL to finish the year and bring in an NEW YEAR! In life, I do believe in Fate and Destiny… sometimes we have to get busy with our passion and allow the UNIVERSE to do it’s work. Hang in there – you are loving person, the Universe is finding the special person for you! ❤
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HI Monica,
You are so right! Sometimes, after some dates, I realize how happy alone I am. Still I look for a partner, that I know is out there 🙂
If we do what we love, if we follow our heart and our passions, only good things will come.
Thank you for the support and kind words! Blessings to you! ♥♥
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It must be hard to simply say, “I’m no longer interested.”
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lol
I guess so, so many resort to stupid excuses. Perhaps they think they are letting me down easy.
Blessings to you KE! ♥♥
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Men mostly move into denial.. and we need closure.. Good for you to follow up and let it go!
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NEXT….
IT’S getting to be our favorite line now isn’t it! 🤣🤣🤣
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I decide to confront them. Someone once said that I like to pick fights, perhaps they are right lol
May be I should get a tattoo 🙂
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hahahahahaha I doubt that. what would you say on the tatoo? NEXT? hahahah 🤣
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