“The average dog is a nicer person than the average person.” ―
After I published the last post, I received a reply to my text:
The rest of the text reads: “soon as I felt it, but it just very recently has happened.”
At least he replied, but I still think that was a rude and coward move. I guess he was never going to say anything. Ghosting was his chosen way to end things.
Why leave me thinking that he is going to call? Why not contact me? Why leave someone in limbo?
Am I being unreasonable to expect someone to let me know that they have changed their mind?
I have no expectations after one date, good or not. But if I have 2 dates that were great and the person keeps in touch and mentions a third; in that case I believe we have something and expect at least a courtesy text.
What saddens me, is not the rejection, but the fact that people think this is an acceptable way to treat each other. It will never be acceptable to me.
I will not behave in such way, and I will not accept it as being okay. I will continue to conduct myself in dating, as I do in life, with kindness, respect and thoughtfulness. I will continue to let the Golden Rule guide me.
I should write an online dating etiquette guide. I believe a lot people are just clueless, and perhaps not mean spirited.
Onward and forward. Stay tuned, the next post is about my date last night.
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” ―
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
Right…basic etiquettes are lacking. Why make someone wait when you do not intend reaching out??
Stay blessed always 🌹🙏🌹
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Hi Jas Krish,
Exactly! How hard is it to just say (text) something, anything?
Thank you for the blessings and sending you some too! ♥♥
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🙏🌹🙏
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Ana! How awful. Yes, he was rude, a coward AND a creep. You deserve SO MUCH better! You follow the Golden Rule because YOU ARE gold, pure, beautiful gold. NO ONE will ever mar your luster! 🤍
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oh wow, thank you so much Stacy!
You made me smile and my heart sing 🙂
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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💜 When ‘Evil Bitches’ did this to me I Used to Get Upset 😡 EveryOne; these days I just shrug my shoulders and admit I got it wrong…then I forgive her and pity the next poor fool (female and male) who will fall for HER!!! Lies; please don’t Get Me Wrong EveryBody, Deception is Gender Neutral and often UnConscious 🤗
…💛💚💙…
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Hi Yernasia,
Absolutely, any gender can be callous and rude. I date men, so therefore, that is where my experience lies.
You are right, forgiveness is key. I forgive them for their actions, and also myself for being mislead.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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It’ was cowardly to leave you hanging. Sigh.
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Hi Claudette,
I am glad my friends here are seeing my way. I thought, for a second, that perhaps I was overreacting and expecting too much.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Too many stories like this keep appearing in my life…
All the best. 🙂
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At least you know. I t proved my point I wrote in the comment of your last post…. Cowards….
Being honest is so important and yet they conveniently forget.
All the best to you for future fun. ♥
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Hi Ute,
Yes, you were right. It is disappointing to think that I thought so much more of him.
But, it is best to find out who he is now, then in several more dates down the line.
Thank you and blessings to you! ♥♥
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It’s about respect between two human beings.
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Hi Cassa,
You are so right! It is not even about dating, it is about respect!!
Thank you and blessings to you! ♥♥
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Sad that humans act this way. Kindness, respect, etc. just doesn’t exist anymore.
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Hi Monica,
Yes, it seems those are on the way, much like chivalry 😦
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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I don’t want to say it, but I bet he had a cat.
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hahaha, you may be on to something!!
I don’t think he has a pet, but I didn’t ask. I am adding that to my questionnaire.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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what do they say… there are 1 in a million good ones.. NEXT!
Yes… I love this idea… DO IT:
“I should write an online dating etiquette guide. I believe a lot people are just clueless, and perhaps not mean spirited.”
on to the next!💖💖👏👏👏👏
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like finding a needle in a haystack, but I don’t give up lol
Blessings to you Cindy! ♥♥
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NEvER… lol!! 💖
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Every year our manners and social interactions seem to decline. I wonder if humans as a collective are incapable of improving in this emotional capacity. I think certain individuals are improving, but society as a whole is not. I guess many factors are to blame, especially social media and popular culture.
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Hi Benjamin,
You are so right!
I hate to see, that, as a society, we are becoming used to unkindness and inconsideration.
I refuse to accept it and to treat others as such.
We kind people unite!! 🙂
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Yeah, I like what you say. The kind people need to stick together. Hopefully the unkind will start feeling more kind after awhile. Fight unkindness with kindness. 🙂 Blessing back to you!
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“Fight unkindness with kindness” – I love that!! ♥♥
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♥♥ Have a great weekend!
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Ghosting I guess is becoming very common now a days. I had an experience where I was soft ghosted, it was awful coz for sometime I keep doubting myself, but as you know ghosting is easy for creeps and narcissist out there…
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Hi Tanya,
I felt the same as you did every time I got ghosted, I kept doubting myself. But in the end, I think that if we are in doubt if we have been ghosted or not, we definitely did. It is the easy way out for people, but I find it rude and insensitive.
Blessings to you!
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I hate ghosters… sometimes some creeps use this as a tool to punish women, who are obviously much better than them. Take care.
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