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This week zoomed by. It was a blur. Phase III started on Tuesday in New Rochelle. Restaurants are now open for indoor seating at 50% capacity. Some restaurants put tables on the sidewalk and I love that.
On Sunday I had my first meal at a restaurant. My sister and I were spending the day with a friend. We went to Chat 19 in Larchmont because they have outdoor seating.
We had a great time, and great food. After that we went to the Larchmont Manor Park, shown on the picture above. It was a beautiful day. It felt freeing.
“Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.”― T
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Last night, Friday I met a friend/business acquaintance for an afternoon drink/early dinner. I showed her my neighborhood and we chose to sit outside at a Colombian Restaurant. My sister met us there after she finished work.
We had passionfruit mojitos and empanadas and skirt steak, among other things. All delicious. We were sitting there talking and people watching for over 4 hours. I also learned a lot about her life here and back in Australia where she is originally from. I knew very little of her up to last night. It is wonderful to understand the reasons why someone does what they do, or live the way they live.
“Is it possible, in the final analysis, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another?
We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person’s essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?”―
Tonight I will have my first date from Match.com. I just realized that he is only 39 years old, and I am not. I have thought about canceling but I don’t think there is any harm in meeting him and making a new friend.
He seems so nice and thoughtful. He is driving over 1 hours from NJ to come to my neighborhood to take me to dinner. He chose a nice restaurant with a back patio that looks great.
I will go with an open mind, and don’t let the age influence me.
UPDATE: Right as I was about to post this I received a text from my date saying he had to postpone it for next week. He said had to stay near his laptop because of some work crisis. He also added: “The only other option would be for you to come here”
I don’t know if this is true or not, or if he is just being lazy trying to have me drive to him instead of him driving to me. Whatever it is, it just feels lame to me. I will definitely not be going to him. My gut tells me that a date next week doesn’t seem likely.
“Maturity, one discovers, has everything to do with the acceptance of ‘not knowing.”―
So it seems life is getting back to normal, or I should say new normal. Will the new normal be better than the old normal?
As I wrote that I paused to reflect. Do I want everything to go back to normal? Yes and no! I guess this is the perfect time for me to reflect on the changes that I want to make and keep in my life. What I want my new normal to look like? For starters I want to have a better work-life balance.
What a wasted opportunity life would be if we as a humanity didn’t learn anything in the last 4 months? Time to reflect in our own lives and see where we can improve to benefit ourselves and our neighbors.
“Don’t Just
Don’t just learn, experience.
Don’t just read, absorb.
Don’t just change, transform.
Don’t just relate, advocate.
Don’t just promise, prove.
Don’t just criticize, encourage.
Don’t just think, ponder.
Don’t just take, give.
Don’t just see, feel.
Don’t just dream, do.
Don’t just hear, listen.
Don’t just talk, act.
Don’t just tell, show.
Don’t just exist, live.”
―
The V Pub said:
Passion fruit mojitos? Sounds wonderful. I’m sorry your date fell through.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Passion fruit mojitos, or any other cocktail with passion fruit is just delicious. One of my favorite cocktails in Brazil is made with passion fruit, tangerines and cachaca (sugar cane alcohol).
Thank you! Plenty of fish in the sea, as they say 🙂
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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The V Pub said:
I love mojitos and want to try a blueberry mojito. Yes, plenty of fish! ❤️
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A Star on the Forehead said:
That sounds delicious also. Let me know what do you think when you try it 🙂
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The V Pub said:
Will do, and I’ll pass on the recipe, too.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Deal! ♥
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The V Pub said:
Deal! ❤️
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joyroses13 said:
I did enjoy so much going out to a restaurant with a friend again! Glad you got to!
Hmmm….yes that sounds like a lame excuse to me, from your date. Sorry! Will be interesting to see if your gut is right.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
It feels great going out and being able to sit with friends.
I am still on the fence regarding this guy… let’s see what unfolds.
Blessings! ♥♥
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Sheree said:
While I want semblance of normality I also want to retain the good things from the lockdown period.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Hi Sheree
Well said! There are good things to learn and keep.
Blessings! ♥♥
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Sheree said:
😎
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Cassa Bassa said:
I have been out for dinner with 2 girlfriends tonight and we absolutely had a great time. We treasured more after the lock down experience.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
We are definitely going to appreciate some things much more now, such as the freedom of eating at a restaurant with friends.
Wishing you a blessed week! ♥♥
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Cassa Bassa said:
Likewise!
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dfolstad58 said:
I looked up Larchmont Manor park, and larchmont. I wanted to understand better where you were. I found it amazing how you chat and people-watch for hours, and that is a gift that you must have that you don’t rush to get to know someone. It tells me also that people enjoy spending time with you, I imagine there was much laughter, if this fellow doesn’t meet you, it’s his loss. I wonder if I am a restless person?
It’s a tad cloudy and cool today after the heat of the last few days. I am glad actually as I plan to hike Giant’s Head mountain again today and I get hot enough walking uphill. Thank you for sharing a peek at your day.- hugs
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Hi David
I hope the hiking was good.
I am normally a homebody and restless also. I love to stay at home and find myself wanting to go home every time I leave the house (everyone is shocked when I say that because that is not how anyone sees me).
I also love to talk and if the conversation is good I can sit at a bar and talk for hours – so I have been known to do that. I am not much of a drinker, so I will nurse 1 or 2 drinks the entire time. On this outing my friend had 4 margaritas and 2 passionfruit mojitos. She was fine – she was totally unchanged. I had 1 mojito. I had warned her beforehand that I was not a drinker. Anyway, I drifted off course here, lol
It all depends on the situation and on the company. It helped that after being locked down for so long, having a drink at an outside restaurant felt unbelievable. I could have stayed longer, but was feeling guilty that other people wanted to sit down.
Perhaps you are restless, or perhaps in a hurry to live and don’t want to waste any time.
Blessings to you my friend! ♥♥
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Gail said:
I agree with your comment about not wasting this experience. I am not sure about my generation, but I believe the next generation will make the world a better place because of this with innovative business ideas and infrastructure re-imagined.
I also agree with you about the date – sounds like bad news.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Hi Gail,
These are the times for the creative and resourceful to shine. It will be interesting to watch all the new innovations that will come out of it. I have to believe that there will be a lot good coming out of these dark times.
He texted again, then went silent again. I definitely could take it or leave it at this point.
Wishing you a blessed week! ♥♥
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Eliza said:
I didn’t realise you were back to dating. Enjoy!!!!
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Yes, I am. We shall see what adventures wait for me. 🙂
Blessings! ♥♥
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