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dates and jobs, job offers, keeping an open mind, online dating, smoked salmon and avocado, spaetzle and steak, too busy to date
My dating life is going slow as I haven’t been devoting much time to it. Online dating does become like a second job sometimes.
I have managed however to have 3 dates with one guy. That in itself is astonishing since I am mostly a one date girl.
On the first date we went for a late drink at a wine bar. I had prosecco, he had a couple of different red wines, and we shared a cheese platter. There were no fireworks but he was nice and friendly. He asked me on a second date that night and I said yes.
During that first date I mentioned that my sister was now living with me and looking for a job. The next day he texted me and asked if my sister wanted to work some hours at his restaurant/catering business while she is going on interviews for something in her field. I showed my sister the text and she agreed to go meet him at the restaurant the next day. She was hired to work 3 days a week.
On the second date he cooked for me at his restaurant. He made crostini with avocado, smoked salmon and capers on top, paired with prosecco (he remembered I like it) for the appetizers. For the entree he made flank steak (which I had mentioned I liked), spaetzle (German egg noodle) and spinach, paired with red wine. For dessert I had a choice of brownie sundae or ice cream sandwich. By then I was so full that I just had a chocolate chip cookie. The photos above are not that great as I took them in the kitchen and not at the table.
For the third date we had drinks at an Italian restaurant and then went to a lounge with loud dance music as it was the only thing open after 11pm. Still we found a quiet corner and managed to be able to talk.
I am still not sure about chemistry. He is a great guy, but also a gentleman and there hasn’t been anything other than a peck on the lips. Until there is a kiss I cannot tell where this will go.
He has 3 kids between the ages of 10 and 14 and he is busy with them every day. He is also very busy with the restaurant and catering, so we haven’t met each other again after those 3 dates. For now we have a texting friendship and that suits me fine, but if we ever start a romantic relationship the lack of time would probably annoy me.
It is a tricky dynamic to mix work with romance even though I am not the one working for him. At first I was overthinking this, then I decided to relax and go with the flow. First, this is just a part time gig for my sister and will not last forever. Second, I have a feeling that he and I will just become good friends and not romantic mates.
I guess the message for me with this post is to keep an open mind. Open mind to go a second and third date even if there are no fireworks in the first. Open mind to think that it is okay to have my sister work for someone I just met and that I can possibly have a relationship with. Open mind to not shut him down for his lack of time and let things develop. Open mind to try a different route.
Wishing you all a blessed and fun weekend!
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” – Isaac Asimov
Hunida said:
What a dream to date a chef! The food looks amazing! Hopefully the spark ignites and you feel a romantic connection as time goes on. 🙂
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Unfortunately dating a chef is not good for my waist line. I am eating way too many brownies. He makes the best ones I have ever had and my sister keeps bringing them home.
As far as the connection I am open to it, but he is so busy. I am still waiting on the 4th date. We shall see..
Thank you for stopping by and many blessings! 🙂
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Hunida said:
Oh gosh! I am such a foodie. If a man made the best brownies for me; I’d never leave him ahhaha.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
I am not sure if romance will blossom, but I think I will definitely be a customer!
Wishing you a blessed week! 🙂
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40Shades of Pink said:
I dated a man that baked me brownies every month! He was a keeper!
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Any man that goes around of his way to be kind and do kind things is worth keeping around 🙂
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Hunida said:
AWW!! That’s definitely a keeper. 😉
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Hope said:
I agree sometimes it is best not to over analyse. Just go with the flow and have some fun
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A Star on the Forehead said:
I am trying that out for a change, and it is going well – less expectations and less dramas!
Many blessings to you!
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Woebegone but Hopeful said:
There will be times when it’s wise to follow your head and other times to follow your heart.
I’m with Hope on this one.
Best wishes for your future.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
And with hope I go, following that which speaks louder, the head or the heart.
Thank you so much for you words and good wishes! Blessings! 🙂
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Woebegone but Hopeful said:
🌼 🌻 🌞
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A Star on the Forehead said:
🙂
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utesmile said:
I can’t believe you had Spaetzle. They are from the area where I come from. I totally love them. Lucky you! 🙂
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Really? I loved them too. This restaurant owner is German. I am going to ask him which area he is from and let you know. Perhaps he is from your area.
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utesmile said:
No wonder he knows Spaetzle…. he must be from the South of Germany – Schwabia… My home! Yes please let me know! 🙂
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A Star on the Forehead said:
I just asked and he said he is from Bonn. He says it is a little north of Schwabia.
I would love to see both places one day.
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utesmile said:
Bonn is nice, so nice that he knows Spaetzle.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
He is a nice man. We shall see how things will turn out.
Wishing you a blessed day! 🙂
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Unleashing the Cougar said:
I agree that you definitely can’t tell until you’ve had some physical intimacy. With my new man it was the clincher. Everything else can be wonderful but if there is not a sexual spark (or fire), for me it’s all off.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
I am like you. If there are no sparks, there is no future.
I am happy for you with the new man! Enjoy the sparks! Many blessings! 🙂
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lillyevechristie said:
Well he certainly seems like a very kind and thoughtful guy! as you say, go with the flow, you never know! x
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Going with the flow is not easy for me, but I am making an effort.
Stay tuned…
Wishing you a blessed week! 🙂
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lillyevechristie said:
And to you x
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Thank you! 🙂
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ksbeth said:
he sounds like a good guy and i deal with the same thing in my dating life. i have to remember what you are trying to do, to just go with the flow and see what happens.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Hi Beth,
Going with the flow is so difficult for such a control freak like me. I like to know where things stand, and not just “be”, but I realize that I need to learn to let go, to let nature takes its course, and stop interfering. Perhaps this old dog here can learn new tricks.
I am giving it a try, and surprisingly I am succeeding.
Thank you and wishing you a blessed rest of the week and weekend! 🙂
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