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being disappointed, believe actions, empty promises, no second chances, online dating, stupid men
The above are texts that I received from the man from my last post: https://atomic-temporary-33385295.wpcomstaging.com/2016/11/18/is-anyone-deserving-of-a-3rd-4th-5th-chance/
The first text is when he sent me the email I talked about in that post. The second one I received last night, after not replying to his text or email.
I was shocked to get such a text. He is clearly not the person I once thought he was. Why would he write such a text? What makes him think that such a text is okay? We had one date! We have never held hands, kissed, anything.
I am so disgusted by this text. I even feel like changing my phone number. I hope I don’t have to. I hope I won’t ever hear from him again.
At the end of the day this episode shows me:
- I have to stop being so trusting and always expecting the best of people. I have to be even more cautious. Not everyone deserves a second or more chances. Don’t give people a chance to continue failing you and hurting you!
- Sometimes we have to forgo niceties. No everyone is deserving of politeness. If being nice puts you in an awkward situation or sends someone the wrong message, don’t be nice! Put yourself first!
- When people show you who they are by the way they act, believe them! Don’t get fooled by pretty words and empty promises. Talk is cheap. Believe actions!
I am so happy I followed my gut and everyone’s advice and never replied. I was really tempted to write a nice polite email back. Thank you all for helping me make the right decision.
“If you’re betrayed, release disappointment at once.
By that way, the bitterness has no time to take root.”
― Toba Beta
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
Some people have no boundaries and no social graces – ignore!
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I keep learning and it still shocks me every time! Thank you and blessings! 🙂
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Blessing and good wishes right back to you!
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Thank you! 🙂
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I would definitely add his number to your blocked call list. I don’t know if the texts will be blocked, but at least he won’t be able to call you. What a jerk he is!
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I just did exactly that. He is on my Reject list now. Hopefully this is the last I will hear from him! Jerk indeed!! Blessings to you! 🙂
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Well to be honest… And this is just my opinion but he seems desperate and it’s almost like he’s trying to get a rebound. Hey… but I could be wrong. I wouldn’t give him a chance though. It took you years to figure out that I’m worth it… F#×@ off dude…
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No more chances. His last text really smelled of desperation. If he had any chance at all he completely blew it with that last text! It wasn’t really a rebound as we never had anything other than 1 date, it was more of what he knew he was missed out on. Thank you for commenting and wishing you a blessed week! 🙂
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Your welcome… And you have a good one to.
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Thank you! 🙂
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😦
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That is so good you didn’t answer and just take him out. He will eventually get the message if you don’t answer. ( He obviously doesn’t read your blog…..hehe ) Just move on and ignore all he sends. You could also block his number if necessary.
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There are only a couple of people I know that had the address of my blog, I gave to them when I first started and immediately regretted. I hope they no longer read it 🙂 I blocked his number and with that last text he has made so easy to ignore him. A blessed week to you! 🙂
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Sweetness, I am really glad we all told you what we did, especially me! I just knew it! I could feel it in my bones that something was definitely not right.
And, no, that text is not appropriate if you have not been intimate or had decided to text in such a fashion.
Scott
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Still I was so shocked. We had one date, in which, even though he was late, he behaved as a gentleman and that is why I was willing to give him chances. He did me a big favor by showing me his true self. So easy to ignore him now. Thank you for always watching out for me and giving me your honest opinion! Blessings! 🙂
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Being a gentleman can be honest, but it is also a way to garnish those second chances as well as catch someone off guard, which he did with you. Continue to ignore.
Scott
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very tricky and he almost got me to reply.
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Glad you didn’t give in.
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Thank you! Me too!
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I sent something out the other day and got blasted hard enough to have me backing up at the keyboard.
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hahaha, gotta be able to see the humor in that, even though at the times is unnerving and even frightening! keep going! 🙂
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🙂
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gross, i’m so sorry
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gross indeed 🙂 thank you!
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Wow, close call. What if you’d only found out after weeks of invested time?
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Indeed! I dodged a bullet! I am really blessed, it saved me time, energy and heartache! Many blessings to you! 🙂
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This guy’s been reading too much cheap fiction and listening third stuff that makes the music charts.
As a 65 year old man I would like to give him a straight talking to….
Either that a swift smack on the head.
You did the right thing….no contact!
All best to you.
Roger
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Hi Roger,
Some men do need a smack on the head or a kick in the pants!
I am glad I ignored his emails and texts.
Thank you and all the best to you too!
Many blessings! 🙂
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You too!
Take care
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I know the feeling. You run into this world, head high, reaching for the proverbial stars, head over heels to be kind and then someone winds the pitch and throws a heaping pile of horse crap in your face. Oh the joy…hmm? It hurts, but it gives you a tough skin. Trust no man because people disappoint you, even yourself. Protect yourself, and know that not everyone is nice as you. Some are painted black as night with intentions to match. For some, take a risk on new dates, new friends…but don’t put yourself in an unsafe situation such as this. Especially if it makes u ten times uncomfortable…Block him and move forward boldly.
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Nicely put!! I now proceed still trusting but more cautious. I still want to give people the benefit of the doubt, but will never go against my instinct.
Thank you for your comment and wishing you a blessed rest of week and weekend! 🙂
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Everything I have read by you so far really resonates with me. I don’t trust anyone either. I have always been afraid to say no, even when instincts said run. There are a lot of predators out there looking to take advantage of the vulnerable.
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I like to believe that I am trusting but being a single woman doing online dating I have to be extra careful and safe. I rather say no and hurt someone than say yes and end up hurting myself. But also I like to believe that people deserve second chances…and that is where things get tricky 🙂
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I know what you mean. I have done the online dating and it’s 90% one thing. I would say no when it came to that. When I was with my ex, that was when I could not say, no and later with my rebound, bad mistake. Never rebound. Give it time. I wish I would have.
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Indeed! Going back to something that didn’t work the first time around hoping that things and people have changed seldom worked. It is best to move on and make new mistakes and learn new lessons than revisit old ones! Many blessings! 🙂
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Blessings too you as well. I guess some times you have to learn the hard way. I know I did. It took several times for it to get through this thick head of mine, but eventually it did.
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it’s comical how after saying or texting what they think women want to hear, then go straight to the juggler if they get no response. It’s kind of depressing that it seems grasping at straws is a turn on for some. What a change indeed. And truth be told, he’s probably married or tied in with someone else. I wish I saved half the text I received that generated an eyeroll lol
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It is comical and also a bit tragic, it makes me lose a little faith in mankind. Can you believe that he messaged me on another online dating site and he wrote me as if it was the first time ever he was contacting me. Now I am thinking he is either really dumb or have psychological issues. Whatever it is I dodged a bullet! If we had saved all the texts/emails we probably could write a tragicomedy! Thank you for your comment! Wishing you the best of luck and a blessed weekahead! 🙂
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Haha! To creepy. Look forward to more post like this! 😇
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creepy indeed!
I am sure there is more to come, so visit often 🙂
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That happens all the time! Not sure if they actually think you will be turned on by that, but maybe they should take an edicate class…
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Ewww! Apparently this gentleman has some boundary issues. LOL. Glad you got rid of him.
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I am so glad he showed his true colors before I really thought of him as a great friend. If I never see him again it will be too soon! Thank you and blessings! 🙂
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He’s either a condiment fanatic or really rude. I’ll go with the prior.
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Ahhh, the dangers of the send button. Please correct to ‘latter’.
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ha, so what happens now is that I keep trying to guess where in my blog will you land. It has been fun reliving some things I wrote and realizing: 1) How far I have come 🙂 or 2) How I didn’t change at all 😦
Thank you!!!
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There’s so much material for me to read! So, yes, you’ll never quite know where I’m going to land.
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Well, I am hot and spicy, so who can really blame him? lol
but, nahhh, he was just rude and inappropriate, and really came out of nowhere with that stupidity
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Well, there’s that! lol Your spiciness and not his stupidity. 😀
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🙂 ♥♥
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