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blog, disappearing act, friendship, hip pain, mosaics, volunteer
Life happens and then all of a sudden I realize that I have not posted anything in one week. I don’t want you guys to forget about me and find another blog to read, plus I miss all the terrific comments. I have learned and grown so much from my post and the responses to it! 🙂
What has been happening is work has gotten really busy and after I goofed on a couple of things I am making sure that I am dedicating my time at work to work (what a crazy idea! lol). I also have stepped up my hip exercises, and have been working more on my mosaics. But all of that is no excuse not to make time to something I love: blogging!
So here are updates relating to previous posts:
“Magic trick: to make people disappear, ask them to fulfill their promises.“
Mason Cooley
On The disappearing Act https://blessedwithastarontheforehead.wordpress.com/2013/06/26/the-disappearing-act/
Since I could not let bygones be bygones I went straight to the point and asked Mr. Disappearing what happened. He said that he is having medical and care issues with his mother, and he also added and I quote: “I felt you are still not over your last boyfriend. Dragging things and hopping maybe is going to turn better is not something i want to experience at this time..”
Fair enough! Perhaps I should have not spend hours talking about Ex on that last date lol oh well, I kinda knew the reason why he disappeared, but it is good to have a confirmation and not wonder anymore.
on the hip pain https://blessedwithastarontheforehead.wordpress.com/2013/05/02/my-hips-dont-lie-neither-does-my-back/
I continue to do physical therapy, now once a week instead of twice. It has gotten a lot better, but I am still not 100%. What plagues my mind is the question: Will I ever be 100%? I try to be positive and I know the reality that the answer to that question depends solely on me. So I am doing my part! I am following my exercises and stretches to a T. I have also started using my elliptical machine again. My aim is 30 minutes, but for now it is until my hip starts hurting which is after 15/20 minutes. After the exercises and stretches, I am making sure I use a foam roller and I apply ice.
Slow and steady! Slow and steady!
Volunteering – https://blessedwithastarontheforehead.wordpress.com/2012/03/06/first-step-in-volunteering-and-going-back-to-dance/
Finally I am all set to start volunteering. After, what I felt, it was a lot of red tape, I will start volunteering at a the Dementia/Alzheimer Unit in a nursing home starting this coming Monday. I will do one evening a week and see how it goes. On Friday I went for an orientation, then and now I am am experiencing a multitude of feelings, anxiety, excitement and nervousness about it. I guess it is only normal to feel apprehensive about something new. We shall see how it will go!
Milton https://blessedwithastarontheforehead.wordpress.com//?s=milton&search=Go
I continue to stop and chat with Milton. This past weekend he said he took the subway to the Bronx and played cards with friends. He won $27 dollars. He said I brought him luck. I am glad to see that he has friends he associates with. Last week he wanted to get me a pink watch similar to the one he has. I declined and said I have enough watches, which is true. I am not sure what he meant by get.
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The next 2 post will be update on Ex and Mosaics. Ex’s absence in my life has played a huge role on where I am today. I am getting more and more into my mosaics. They still look like a child’s school project but I am so proud of them. Stay tuned…
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
So excited to dig deeper. 🙂
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Welcome! Dig away! I am so jealous of that ring!!! Congratulations and blessings! 🙂
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🙂 thank you for the congrats and compliment!
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I love your Milton stories! You should create a “Milton” page on your blog with your daily encounters with him.
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Thank you! I have thought about that, but I think I would feel a little like I am just using him to have something to write about it. but who knows, I happen to change my mind all the time! 🙂 Many blessings! 🙂
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Oh no, I would not think that at all, rather Milton has become a part of your daily life. We all blog about our lives and the interesting, non interesting, funny, and sad things that happen all the time. Perhaps the page could be called “People I Have Met”. Just a thought, but love the idea.
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That is a great idea! I do meet some unique people every now and then… well we are all unique, I mean I meet strange people lol, anyway, I am really going to think about that! thank you for the idea and a blessed weekend ahead! 🙂
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My limited wisdom leads me to think your are on to your own wisdom about your blogging. Your ex is not a core part of your blogging. Your blogging is a sacred part of your life, in my opinion. Guard, it and let it go with you into the future, even if it means some grieving in the here-and-now. One of my thoughts is that the Star on the Forehead blog is about you, and not your ex. Is that harsh? I don’t meant to be. Take care of your hip, and your work, and your heart.
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I love your not so limited wisdom! 🙂 You are right this blog is sacred to me and it has brought me a lot and I know it will bring me much more. You are not harsh, and I can take a little harshness every now and then! I figure I need to credit him with being the force that propelled me to start writing this blog. Perhaps, and this is something that just came to mind now, perhaps I just want to keep him alive in my life! Why can’t I be like everyone else that are able to live Exes in the past? I don’t love him anymore, well what I mean is I don’t want him anymore. Okay I am forcing myself to stop now otherwise this reply to a comment is becoming a post in itself. Blessings to you and many thanks for exposing me! 🙂
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I told my daughters, live and laugh and love will find you 🙂
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…and until it finds you there is always an internet dating site to keep you entertained! 🙂 just kidding! That is a great less to teach them and it is definitely the recipe for a great rewarding life! Blessings! 🙂
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Nice to hear the updates. I feel the same about blogging that it gives me so mcuh and I so enjoy it. Through it I also feel I have grown. Much love Ute
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Thank you so much Ute! We are very similar in many instances! Blessings to you! :0
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Good to hear you are getting better. Congrats about volunteering. I think that is such a gift, being able to do it. All the best!
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Hi Patricia , Thank you so much! I am still reading that first book, but I am stuck at the first chapter and first exercise 😦 Hoping to move on soon!
Many blessings! 🙂
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It happened to me too! Best wishes!:D
Blessings to you too.
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oh really, you too?, I pictured you easily through the chapters and exercise and moving on to the next book. 🙂
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LOL!!! I wish! 😀
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Glad you are back with it…
Scott
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HI Scott. Thank you! 🙂 A blessed week ahead to you! 🙂
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lol @ “Will I ever be 100%?” Come on now, you and I both know that in our 40s we’ll never be 100% again. Sorry to hear about your hip problem, hope you make a good recovery.
Your conversation with Mr.Disappearance was pretty funny..you just HAD to extract the answer out of him.lol
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what?!?!?!? I plan to be 110% by the time I am 50 and run circles around the immature 25 year olds!!
I can’t let things go until I have an acceptable explanation, I have to have an answer always, and speaking of that, I am waiting to hear the reason behind your disappearance. Or do you think you can just come and go as you please?
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rofl! only response to that is, you are very young at heart. Good luck running circles around the 25yr olds, I’ll be busy using my experience and cunning to take credit for their work.lol
Your ‘need to know’ attitude in dating is what used to scare me the most about dating a good girl, back in the day.
What have I been doing past couple of months…hmmm. Mostly working on business deals, designing crap, and watching Tour de France for about 4 hours everyday. But you always knew my life is full of excitement.hahaha(meant it sarcastically)
Come and go as I please? Dude, you serious? I thought we had open door policy on our blogs 🙂
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hahaha, perhaps I should follow your lead and make sure my mind remains keen as my body gives out.
Unfortunately I do know that I am too much for a lot men. I demand honesty and full disclosure. I don’t let sleeping dogs lie. I am still looking for the kind that will find that side of me very charming or perhaps will be so blind by my beauty and sexiness that he will not notice it.
It seems like you have been keeping yourself very busy and out trouble.
I am as serious as a heart attack! When you start a blog and have followers, you enter in an unwritten contract to show up every now and then, and if not, then to inform the readers about your absence.
If anything, I just think it is just plain blogging courtesy! got it Dude? 🙂
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let sleeping dogs lie? lol. That’s a best case scenario for these dogs.haha. You know what its like trying to sleep with a constant threat of knowing the very next phone call from the gf will be a confrontation about something you did not disclose? omg, you have no idea.lol
Love your comment on being beautiful and sexy. I guess it can work.
So I should let me readers know…lol. Maybe when I start having some followers.hahaha.
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so perhaps said bf should disclose all pertinent information so he can sleep in peace!
I am a follower! or I don’t count? it is not quantity you should focus on, it is quality!! 🙂
A blessed week to you! 🙂
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But don’t you think that’s a justification to let things be? If punishment should fit the crime, the fact that he cannot sleep at night worried sick about a potential confrontation coming up, isn’t that punishment enough? I think the whole seek and destroy method is overkill.lol
You are not a follower, you are my lunch conversation buddy.hahaha
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humm, I agree to let things be, once I know what are the “things” in question. I don’t care what someone did in the past before they met me, but I care when he is doing things that he thinks there is the need to hide. People that have nothing to hide don’t lose sleep over such things. Plus if someone is losing sleep over that, perhaps that is one relationship that shouldn’t be.
I think that once you decide to commit a crime you can always count on a fair punishment, it all depends on the person handing the punishment.
I think I have just been promoted!! 🙂
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lol, such an interesting topic we stumbled on to here. The question of “crime” and “lying” is not black/white, there are many parameters and variance. Its hard to explain but here is an example:
Lets say a man told a white lie, which is pretty common among men.lol To a man its nothing, but the man also knows that to a woman it could be perceived as a bad thing and will get over-blown. Best logical solution is not to say anything, and thus develops in to feeling of guilt. The level of guilt varies a lot depending on how he truly feels about the woman. If he doesn’t care much about her, he won’t lose any sleep over it. If he cares deeply about her, he will absolutely lose sleep over it.
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From my perspective just the appearance of a lie can be damaging to a relationship.
A lie is a lie, I don’t believe there are different shades of it. I can understand a man not volunteering some information, but creating a lie, be whatever color he may think it is it is not right.
When, in a romantic relationship, I am told a lie I feel disrespected and insulted. Did the person didn’t think I could not handle the truth. What else is this person lying about?
Perhaps if this conversation was happening 3 years ago my opinion would be different, but after being completely honest and having my honesty be returned to me in the form of lies it changed me.
Here is the thing: I am extremely upfront at the start of a relationship of my need for complete honesty. If someone agrees to enter in a relationship with me that is what they are agreeing to.
May be other women rather hear lies than face the truth, not me!!
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Wow, you are on fire!
Right, I meant white lie as in not volunteering some information. I think use of the word lie makes things so much worse than it is. Santa claus, tooth fairy, surprise parties, surprise gifts, Not volunteering information, etc is what I consider to be a “white lie”. I want to make sure ‘grey lies’ don’t get mixed in with the white lies.lol
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hahaha, okay, then, that is a bit different since you mixed the Tooth Fairy in it!
I am always on fire, baby!! hahaha
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Let us know how the volunteering goes, it’s perfectly natural to feel anxious. Thanks for the update.
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I am working on that right now!! Thank you! and blessings! 🙂
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