(tomorrow is the last day of my subscription with e-Harmony, please see this post for more on that subject: https://blessedwithastarontheforehead.wordpress.com/2012/07/26/counting-the-days-until-i-am-free-from-e-harmony/ )
A fellow blogger and reader has been curious about my e-Harmony profile. I think he believes there could lie the answer to my lack of responses problem.
As far as the pictures are concerned (no I will not be posting them) they show me on vacation, and doing stuff I enjoy such as skiing, watching tennis at the US Open, etc. In hindsight perhaps I should have added one or 2 pictures of my fabulous cleavage – lol.
So, Chris this if for you! Start dissecting it! lol
Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
There are a lot people that have contributed to who I am and where I am. I will be glad to discuss it in person. I believe that everyone that comes into your life has something to teach you.
What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?
Honesty and Respect are two of the most important qualities I expect in a person. I am looking for someone with a good heart, someone that loves and respects his parents. I want someone that is happy in his work , if not then striving to do something else. I want someone that will love me, honor and cherish me. I want a partner in life and for life, someone that I can dream and plan with.
Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?
My smile and happy attitude. I like to be friendly and to make other people feel comfortable.
What is the ONE thing that people DON’T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?
I wish they would realize how unique, real and honest I am. I like speaking the truth and being myself and not trying to represent something I am not. I would also like for people to know that I am happy to be alive and feel blessed for each day. I would like people to know that all joking and laughing aside I am a great friend on hard times too!
What are five things that you “can’t live without?”
- Faith in a powerful being and the Universe.
- My family that supports me no matter what!
- Weekends, a chance to renew.
- Work, classes, being productive in society.
- The belief that the love of my life is out there.
Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
Peace is every Step: The path of mindfulness in everyday life by Thich Nhat Hanh. I am still reading it, but benefiting from it very much. It is about discovering the peace within and living the present moment (something I, sometimes have a problem with.
Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?
I am fun, honest, love life and I am grateful for every moment. I want to find an equal fun, honest and grateful person. I have a lot to offer. I am a self made person who has worked hard for what I have. I have been away from my family since I was 17 yrs old. I try to go to Brazil twice a year to see them. I hope that my partner will come with me.
What are you most passionate about?
I am passionate about leading a good life and about helping my family. I am originally from Brazil but have been living in the US for over 2 decades. I enjoy improving myself and learning new things. I love traveling. I like to attend any live events from sports to opera. I enjoy skiing and playing tennis even though I am just a beginner at both sports. I enjoy eating great food and quiet nights sipping wine. I enjoy reading self improvement and inspirational books and blogs. I am also passionate about finding a partner in life that appreciates honesty and respect. I want to be your muse and to make you smile.
What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
- Life and God. Each new day is a gift and a chance to improve.
- My great family: mother, father, brother and sister.
- Hope and Faith. My positive outlook in life. The certainty that no matter what I will always be fine!
The four things your friends say about you are: (chosen from a list of about 30 items)
Optimistic
Intelligent
Hard-working
Passionate
What are three of my best life skills? (chosen from a list of 10 items)
Achieving personal goals
Maintaining an organized life
Managing my finances
How do you typically spend your leisure time?
In my free time I enjoy pampering myself with a massage or manicure,etc. I enjoy walking around my neighborhood and discovering new places. I enjoy spending time with friends and family. I enjoy going to live events and eating out. I enjoy dancing, playing tennis and board games. I also go to the gym, even though I do not enjoy it very much. At times I try to be still, mindful of my breath and think how blessed I am. I enjoy a good book or a good tv show. I enjoy a variety of things. I can have fun doing anything – it all depends on the right company.
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
hmmm..just read it with all my sensors turned on 🙂 For the most part, it looks really genuine, open, and honest. There was just ONE moment where I did get a spike. It was:
“… I try to go to Brazil twice a year to see them. I hope that my partner will come with me.”
I’m curious to see what anybody else would say..lol. Post some new images with it and see what happens 🙂
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lol, you dirty mind you!!!
Actually that is one of the sentences that I would re-write but not for that reason, it just didn’t make much sense. I didn’t realize the faux pas (for lack of better word) until now that you pointed out!
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lol, dirty mind me??!! dirty mind you!…lol There is NO way I was thinking of what you were thinking, and I still don’t know what you were thinking…hahaha
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but let’s face it, that line alone should have men lining up at my door. Who doesn’t want to come in Brazil, I mean, go to Brazil! lol 🙂
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yeah, thats true, too. Looking for a good man in NYC might as well be a needle in a haystack…lol.
Definitely don’t be discouraged with the lack of success with eharmony.
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Definitely not discouraged. It was too early for me to date anyway, and now I am just so busy it is hard to find the time. I did go on a date on Saturday, not from e-harmony. Nice guy, no chemistry (well again, not on my side). anyway, thank for your input! now get back to work! lol
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It’s not your profile, my friend, and it’s definitely not you. It’s the dating site. Leave it behind! A pox on E-Harmony!!
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I actually agree with Deliberately. There is nothing in your profile that is bad. I think you are dealing with bad pool of men in your area.
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I am done with NY men! 🙂
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Bingo!! there is the problem…lol I knew it had to be something obvious 🙂
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Problem solved now we can all rest in peace! 🙂
NO, WAIT, I AM STILL DATELESS!
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I thought you just scored 2 more, with help of all this campaigning…lol
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I got contacted by 2 guys, not sure will turn into dates yet!
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Totally agree and it is behind me! I only posted so Chris would satisfy his curiosity! On a side note, I actually got contacted by 2 guys yesterday – the timing is suspicious!
A day full of blessings to you! 🙂
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oooh, I wonder if big Ben got the memo 🙂
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hahaha
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even though i’m certain, you will overwhelm Ben…lol.
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I am definitely not for the faint of heart. I am full of life and energy, talk too much, honest to a fault!
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rock on! k, going back to work now…lol
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please do! lol I will try to get one or two things done here too!! 🙂
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look! Its almost quitting time…rofl
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if I can only pretend to look busy for another 30 minutes …
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I really like your profile! It is very honest, sincere, and warm. Perhaps you can consider it a good thing that more people didn’t respond. Most people aren’t really ready for a honest, sincere, warm, and healthy realationship. They think they are but really may get afraid of true intimacy, mutual respect, and love…. Perhaps these people would have just wasted your time….
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Very good point! My time is too valuable to be wasted!
Indeed I think some people just say they are ready, when they are actually not.
thank you and blessings to you! 🙂
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About the date, what is your def of chemistry?
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Hard to describe. It is a feeling, a sense, a spark, and it not based on looks. It can be a smile, could be a laughter, or a line on an e-mail. But I know with me that is either normally there or not there and I cannot force it!
So I went on the date knowing there was no chemistry, but thought I should grow up and do like grown ups do, go on a couple of dates before having an opinion.
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the only thing that may have scared people is your honesty and how honest you are about wanting a real relationship — but then again, there is nothing wrong with you — it is with those who are afraid of real feelings
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you are right, and I wouldn’t want to be with anyone that is afraid of honesty and relationships. 🙂
Many blessings to you! 🙂
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Thanks for sharing this experience with everyone. I’m sure you’ll get it all straight and land a great person. All the best! You guys are funny!
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I have hope! and until that right person comes along I will just enjoy my single life! Gotta laugh, life is serious enough!
Blessings to you! 🙂
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okay I did notice one thing but it is a purely subjective thing and maybe the man you are looking for wouldn’t notice or would actually appreciate it but I noticed that everytime you had to list the positive things in your life you listed God above friends and family, now that is entirely fine in one respect they are your feelings but..generally people coming into our lives want to believe they will be the most important thing in our lives and they may look and think well if your family come second where will that put me?
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Very good point! I hadn’t noticed it or thought about it. Perhaps I am not ready to put anyone first – I should think about that! Thank you and many blessings to you! 🙂
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I like your profile 🙂
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Thanks! 🙂
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having read your blog I certainly hope there were enough people out there who wanted to take you out. Hugs, Barbara
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Hi Barbara
So far not a lot men wanting to take me out, but it takes only one, the right one.
So far now I am enjoying my single life while it lasts!
Hugs back to you too! Blessings! 🙂
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Just got done reading the comments…You just crack me up!!! Thank you for that…needed that today! 🙂 I did like your profile by the way 😛 Hugs and Blessings! ~
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Thank you! Gotta be able to laugh about myself, life is serious enough! I hope your day turns out amazing, if not laugh about it! Hugs and blessings back to you!! 🙂
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Totally agree about life being too serious and needing a huge infusion of laughter…especially at oneself. I do so enjoy your humor…it just leaps off the page…er…screen! 😀
And I will try to laugh at all incoming obsticles trying to interfere with an amazing day, thank you! Hugs!! ~
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Cool, so we agree: whenever you can: laugh, whenever you can’t: laugh even harder!!
All the best! Hugs and blessings to you! and many amazing days ahead!
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Most definitely agree!!! Thank you! 😀 I might just quote you on that… ‘whenever you can’t; laugh even harder!!’ 😉
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Quote away! 🙂
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Yay!! 😀 Thank you!
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I honestly didn’t see anything wrong with it, myself… 🙂
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Perhaps I am just too perfect! LOL
Thank you! 🙂
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Looks good to me. I’ll go to Brazil with you 🙂
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Cool, I got one offer! Too bad is from a married female!! LOL
One would think vacations twice a year in Brazil would be appealing …
A wonderfully blessed day to you! 🙂
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Great post! I’ve nominated your blog for the award Very Inspiring Bloggers Award. More info can be found here: http://juleesaninja.wordpress.com/2012/07/31/very-inspiring-blogger-award/ Good luck and keep blogging your amazing posts
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Wow, What a great morning gift! Thank you so much, I feel honored! I plan on working on this one and some others I have received soon!
A blessed day to you! 🙂
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I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Bloggers Award.
Here’s a link for more info: http://xavia101.wordpress.com/2012/07/31/very-inspiring-blogger-award/
Good luck.
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Thank you so much! That is a great compliment! I will work on as time permits! Many blessings 🙂
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Now thats what I call raiding a blog…lol. I didn’t realize I put so many comments in here…hahaha. Anyway, I want to ask you for your permission to reference this specific blog to my next blog. Sorta want to do Part 2 of this…lol
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According to my stats you are my top commenter with 60 comments!! Congratulations! lol
Permission granted!
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dang! in some places that kind of number would get me banned from ever coming back…lol. Thanks for your good sense of humor and being a good sport 🙂
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LOL here it gets you to the top of the class! perhaps I will send you a gold start to be placed on your forehead 🙂
humm, Should I be concerned about what you are writing? Am going to need to be a good sport and have a sense of humor?
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lol @ your top of the class comment…hahaha
star on my forehead? hmmm, I’ll leave that to you and Wonder Woman. I think you guys wear it MUCH better than I ever can…lol
After reading your blog, I started wondering if it really is tough finding good normal guy. I used to think they were everywhere, but I’m starting to see the problem. Especially after Big Ben got completely dissected by the commenters…lol
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do you think Ben is a good normal guy? I think he is good since he is your friend, but is he normal? and if that is the case are you saying that women are too demanding nowadays? What is the problem is you are starting to see?
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no, I’m seeing all you good/normal single ladies are in trouble…lol I can’t find a single qualified guy, thats over 40, that is worthy to marry any female I care about 😦
And, yes, Ben is looking very normal compared to some of these men around my work area…lol
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what is this world coming to when a 40 year old male virgin is normal??!?!?! just kidding!!!
start looking hard for available bachelors …
I am more than good/normal, I am spectacular!! and I am not kidding! 🙂
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alright, let me see just how spectacular you are.
which do you like better, Anderson Silva or Lyota Machida? 🙂
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ANDERSON SILVA!!
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lol, very very nice! he is quite a dancer, too! You certainly are spectacular 🙂
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Have to be honest here, I had never heard of the other one!! so it was an easy guess! lol
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certainly two of my favorite Brazillians 🙂
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I am sure I am a new addition to that long list – lol
off to catch the train, then on to tennis! behave in my absence! 🙂
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Great comments. I was just going to say if I wasn’t a straight married female, I’d be jumping at this profile and the chance to “travel” to Brazil! As an e-harmony reject, I wholeheartedly support your defection from the site.
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hahaha – I do think it is a great offer and one of these days a lucky man will take me up on it! Until then I will be making those trips alone!
Being a reject in this case is a great thing!! Blessings! 🙂
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Being an e-harmony reject is not a bad thing at times. Be careful what you wish for.
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Right on both counts! Lately just wishing for my clarity and guidance in my life, and being grateful for all that comes! Blessings! 🙂
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Clarity and guidance is obtained from those who are futher down the path than one’s self. Check out books and texts that have survived the test of time.
Love from another doesn’t always bring either but it is comforting and fun. It is nice to share a path with someone sympatico as well.
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I am looking for guidance and clarity from God and from all the tools that He makes available such as, as you mentioned, people and books, etc. From a partner I am mostly looking for companionship. Thank you for the comment and blessing to you! 🙂
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A big gold-plated, brass-strapped, chased leather blessing to you too! 😉
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I will take it! 🙂
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🙂
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‘k, just don’t pawn it! lol
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Never!
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I used to hear “never” quite a lot while in high school. From girls.
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Hopefully things have changed …
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Nope. So I decided to become formally celebate so I could pretend being the strikeout king was due to virtue. Ha! Fooled no one so far. *sigh* The Buddha understands but laughs at me anyway. Something about karma I presume but he keeps saying “serves you right.” That’s karma talk, right?
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LOL
That is karma at its best! lol
Have faith my son, all it takes is one yes!
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It is too late… far,far too late for you to apologize for woman-kind for your joint neglect of the affection deprived. I intend to sulk in my miserable hovel until 12-12 when all will be made right. Don’t worry though. I won’t forget you tried to cheer me up.
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lol
wait until 12 12? if something happens for me by 12 12 I will be happy! At the rate things are going I looking to 12 13.
as far as the whole womankind, what can I say? so many men! so little time!
Chin up! Life is beautiful!
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Okay (chirping merrily) 🙂
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🙂
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So many males at any rate. Men are of a separate class.
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I’ll take it! 🙂
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I was reading along and I was going to post that if I wasn’t married that I would love to take you out but then I realized I was already too late. Heck, he would probably still say go for it and help me get ready for our night out. I found your post honest and straight forward which is great for starting off on the right foot with a new partner. I think, if anything, your confidence and intelligence saved you from dealing with “insecure, I gotta fix you to fix me” types. A dating profile is great for figuring out who you are and what you are looking for but in finding a match they seem somewhat lacking. You’re open to the experiences around you and forever blessed by the moment you find yourself in. I have faith that you’ll find who you’re looking for in the most unexpected of moments in a way that no other has before. Best wishes. ❤
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I am sure he would! lol
Thank you so much for the thoughtful comment! I love how you said that my confidence saved me from dealing with the insecure types!! You are so right!! Now if I can only stay away from the overconfident types (such as Ex)…
I am indeed welcoming this alone time to better to know myself and work on me.
I know there are great things for me in my future, and when that special someone shows up I will be ready!!
Thank you for the best wishes and many blessings to you! 🙂
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Wow, this is really great, I mean I really enjoyed your post and by the way, Right on! you answer the questions the way You feel because that’s the way it aught to be! This need to fit in someone else’s view of what you should and shouldn’t say or do is a pile of…stuff! There is someone out there who will recognize those special qualities in you, you just don’t know when. No what I’m referring to is this great interactive dialogue going on about online dating in your comment section. How cool is this, just keep this going! Very entertaining and fun! 🙂
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Hey Glad you enjoyed our little banter here. Totally agree! I must just be me and say and write and act ME! It is just easier and more fun! Plus I am really bad actress could never try to fit somebody else’s mold. thank you for stopping by and for the kind words! Many blessings to you!! 🙂
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I enjoyed the visit, blessing to you also, have a great rest of your day! 🙂
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you may have a laugh with a follow up on that post from a fellow blogger:
and thank you!! 🙂
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you sound amazing!
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Thank you ! Indeed I am! and humble too! 🙂
Many blessings!! 🙂
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Great job Chris, even though the result of your research is somewhat depressing, not surprising, but still depressing! I guess I just need to come up with a list of the problems/issues that I am willing to tolerate!! lol
Thank you for attempting to get to the bottom of a unsolvable problem!
Be blessed! 🙂
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FYI, I crossed off “middle-aged”….lol
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You are a good man, Charlie Brown! But you missed one place, towards the top in item number 1. Thank you!! it means a lot you are being sensitive to my feelings, real or not! 🙂
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Good catch! Can’t be a part2 with a mistake like that…lol. So where you vacationing?
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nothing exciting, but then it will be very exciting because I will be going there! NY isn’t hot enough for me so I am going to Atlanta! I am going to visit my new friend from e-Harmony, remember this one https://blessedwithastarontheforehead.wordpress.com/2012/05/29/first-e-harmony-date/ and here June 12 – Dia dos Namorados!
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awesome!! He sounds like a wonderful person 🙂
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Hey Star… MEN will be men, some good – some not so… (women are the same) Internet dating is what it is (stupid) and BTW nobody (guys) really read your profile 😛 Just be happy being YOU and hopefully the rest will fall into place.
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Life is beautiful and things are indeed falling into place as they are intended! I plan on just enjoying the ride! Blessings!
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Hey Star, I see you have enjoyed watching the Olympics too… I just LOVE it 😀
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I do enjoy sports, so I enjoy watching anything Olympics!! Blessings! 🙂
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Your profile sounds sincere. I read along the comments, they had me laughing for a while. Great post!
About online dating, well, I don’t have much experience, but I will tell you that I did meet the man that for the past three years have been a blessing in my life… heehee
The short story is that I subscribe to e-harmony, had a few conversations, not much and not so interesting to take me to the next level. When my membership expired – 4 months after – I received an email from them (e-harmony), letting me know there was a special going on – one of those free weekend access scams! (Scams because if you want to see the picture, guess what?! you need to pay a full membership).
Anyway, to the point, this is no longer a short story.. heehee 😀
That weekend, I received a message from one of the members. We kept at it, replying almost immediately to each others questions. It was obvious we liked what we read about each other; however, it was Sunday and I was not planning of paying for another membership, so I send him and email to let him know about my membership status and suggested for him to write to my email directly. He did!
Of course, there was a tiny little problem. I had no clue how he looked physically!!! LOL!!! I tried to be slick about it and sent him some of my latest pictures and asked him to do the same. I was relieved to find him attractive.
But that is how it happens. You never know. Maybe, no one is answering to your post, because there is something you need to experience at this moment, etc.
I love your attitude though, that is what made me follow you on the first place.
Many Blessings!
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Wow! I am so happy for you!
Thank you for sharing your story!
I totally agree with you that I had no answers from my post because that is not what I needed at that moment! I was not ready!
Even though some people e-mailed me after my membership expired nothing came of it. Why e-mail somebody and then disappear after she replies? Some things I will not understand.
But anyway, I look at every rejection as a blessing that I didn’t get stuck with the wrong person.
So now my focus is not in meeting someone, but living the best life I can!!
(and just between us, can you keep a secret? I met someone, but don’t want to jinx it, so keeping it quiet for now)
Thank you for your comment and for being a brand new friend!!
Blessings! 🙂
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You know, I put up some stuff on EH too, but I haven’t been contacted yet and my theory is, it’s very hard to contact people there. You can’t see what they look like unless they pay – and that IS important. And the generic questions that are supposed to find your perfect match – well for most people they just bring out the most boring angles. Who inspires you? What are your best qualities? Things like that – they don’t give people an opportunity to really shine. Well, not me anyway. They’re just too ordinary. So everybody sounds dull. Anyway, that’s my rant – but I’m sure life will bring you what you want and need!
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I agree with you last sentence, life will bring us what we need/want, but we have to do our part and not just sit and wait. So good for you for trying EH. It was not for me, but it works for some people. I will give online a try again in the future. Best of luck and many blessings! 🙂
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My best to you on eHarmony.
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Thank you! Blessings! 🙂
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Okay, so I’m a little late to the game on this one. But, I met my wife on eHarmony. She was only the second date that I had on eHarmony, and I pretty much knew after that first date, it was destined to be… so, after reading your profile, here is my criticisms, and maybe these will help you in the future…
You say that you are fun, but there was nothing in the profile that proved it to me. It was all a pretty serious tone. A very honest and heartwarming tone, but men don’t want to be honest, serious and heartwarming ALL the time. There needs to be some silliness in there, there needs to be some fun in there, there needs to be something that SHOWS you can be silly and fun, and lighthearted.
And Paulaacton touched on this, you mentioned God before friends and family, and then you put hope and faith as another in the three. I view hope and faith the same as faith in God. You mention faith a lot, and for a lot of men, that would signal that you are REALLY REALLY religious. And so men who are religious, but don’t necessarily make it a part of every aspect of their life just might be scared off. When I read it, I thought, “wow, she’s really Jesus-ey.” That would potentially be a red flag for a lot of guys.
The last book you read, it was a very deep, serious, and intellectual book. That might scare off a lot of guys, as most guys will not be reading deep philosophical books, so they might feel intimidated by your intelligence. Even if it’s not the last book you read, you might want to choose one that’s more recreational, but still has meaning to you.
Overall, the whole profile is kind of generic. I believe everyone is unique in their own way, and this profile doesn’t really show what’s unique about you. I love traveling, I love playing tennis, blah, blah, blah. Seen it a million times on other profiles. Mention specifics. Instead of “I like movies.” Be more unique! “I loved Spinal Tap, This profile goes to 11!” One of the things I loved about my wife’s profile was that she said that she knew how to drive a double clutch train. Of course, that peaked my interest, and was made for starting a conversation on eHarmony. “I love eating out.” Boring! How about “I kind of consider myself an amateur foodie, and currently my favorite place is (name of place), their (favorite dish) is out of this world amazing!”
Not to be harsh, but the profile above was one in a million, and it doesn’t set you apart from your competition at all. I can see why you didn’t get many hits on it…
I hope this helps in the future if you decide to try again… 🙂
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First congratulations on finding your wife on the second e-harmony date, That is like winning the lottery!
Second, thank you so much for putting so much thought and time in your comment. I am definitely a person that is much better on person than on paper, so I do appreciate any help I can get.
I am done with harmony, but I am thinking of other dating sites for the future. I like you advice of being more specific and will take that to heart in the future.
I am still surprised by the religious comment, there is nothing Jesus-ey (as you put it – lol) about this Brazilian Bombshell here – lol. I am very spiritual, but not religious. I believe I am blessed (hence the name of my blog) and want to find like minded people that believe life is a blessing and don’t dwell on negatives.
I guess it also has to do with timing, at the time I wrote that I was deeply broken hearted and was holding on to my faith for dear life, so that is what it reflected. I should try my hand at writing another one now and see how much would differ.
One thing that stings is to be called generic – lol but being dumped and having a blog are two things that helps one grow and develop a thick skin!! 🙂
And to finalize, do you have any single friends? I am fun I promise! 🙂
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Now, I never said that you were generic! I said the profile as it was written was generic. What I was trying to get you to see is when you just write “I like eating out” it sounds like so much like the other profiles. Be specific, and your unique tastes will emerge!
I also feel like you are being hesitant to put out the “true” you. Like if you put too much of your specific interests, tastes, quotes, etc… people might not like the real you, the person you truly are, so by not putting everything out there, opening up, you ended up sounding like many others out there…
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I understood you didn’t call me generic! Perhaps replying to you while doing 3 other things wasn’t such a great idea – I meant to add a lol to that! I did understand that you said that there wasn’t anything special about my profile or something that would spark someone’s curiosity enough to contact me.
Believe or not that is my true self and one thing I hve learned is that I have to be myself plus I love myself and I think that the guy that ends up with me will be real lucky! 🙂 I also felt that talking about God would perhaps turn people off but I did because that is the real me.
So it is not an easy task: you have to be yourself but if you are religious’ or espiritual such is my case, you have to tone it down?
In real life I am often told I am one of a kind, I guess I just don’t know how to translate to paper that spark I have 🙂
I really appreciate your comment! Blessings!
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Well, I’m no judge, but it looks fine to me.
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Every opinion counts, so thank you! A blessed day to you! 🙂
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Interesting post!
I tried e-Harmony once, and when I found it costs to let someone know you’re interested, I closed my account. They asked SO many questions – too many. I was fatigued at the end.
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I know the feeling. I took advantage of a promotion they were having, and dealt with the questions as a small price to pay for finding love. Even though I had said that I would never do it again, I am eating my own words and I have signed up again. It has been okay, had some great dates, but not a love match yet, but still hopeful!
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Reblogged this on georgeforfun.
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HI George. Thank you for re-blogging! And I love your “About”! Blessings! 🙂
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My pleasure indeed ));<)))))
TY so much. I enjoyed reading your blog, such openness and honesty, refreshing indeed. Loved your post on Eharmony the most. Thanks for sharing the new reality with so many. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Wishing you a wonderful day filled with happiness, joy, and smiles.
❤ (๑̀ ͜ʖ๑́) ❤
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Thank you so much for all the the great uplifting and encouraging words – it makes me smile! Many blessings! 🙂
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You are most deservedly welcome. Wishing you a great day/evening. ❤ (๑̀ ͜ʖ๑́) ❤
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🙂
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