Dia dos Namorados is a sort of Valentine’s Day in Brazil. Lover’s Day, literally translated as Boyfriend/Girlfriend’s Day. It is celebrated by all couples married or otherwise.
Even after living in the US for so long I still like to celebrate it. If I am in a relationship it is an extra excuse for an extra nice date (not that excuses should be necessary)
If I am not in a relationship then that it just another occasion to be reminded that I am partner-less in a world that seems geared to couples.
Please wait, continue reading, this is not going to be a pity party, poor me blog!
After such a dark painful day yesterday, today seems bright and full of possibilities!(I am in love with that word after reading Frank’s post called “Opportunities Abound!”- a small post in length, but huge in meaning! http://frankoshanko.wordpress.com/ )
Remember my First and Only e-Harmony date? Remember how I said he couldn’t be more of a gentleman? Well, well, he really impressed me now.
I am sitting at my desk when in walks the UPS delivery guy with a box from 1-800-Flowers. I am so used to not getting flowers, that I would not sign until I checked the name on the package. I thought it was for the office next door. I was shocked to read my name.
Did I think it was from Ex? for a brief milisecond. But it could never be him. He never sent me flowers at work and he doesn’t think that he did anything wrong that perhaps would warrant flowers. He also wouldn’t remember the date. (Plus, remember that on February 14 he made a point of telling me that he was not going to even give me a card because he didn’t want to send me the wrong message)
Did I think it was the e-Harmony date? no, not in a million years no. After all, he doesn’t have my address. Well, apparently he paid attention to every single word I said during the date and also asked the right questions that enabled him to piece together my address (I guess a google search may have helped too)
He sent me a dozen beautiful roses (red, pink, yellow and white) in a beautiful pink vase with a note that said: Feliz Dia dos Namorados!
It made my day! It is nice to feel special and thought of in such a nice way! It is great to be surprised and to realize that there is at least one person out there that is thinking of me.
But of course, I cannot just enjoy the flowers and relish the moment. Now I worry if his flowers are just a friendly gesture or if there is a little more meaning to it.
I do not want to break anybody’s heart! I know the pain! but I also made clear after the date that I would love to be just friends.
Should I bring up the subject and clarify it again? I also don’t want to offend him. Or should I just say thank you?
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
I hesitate to give advice here…enjoy the beautiful flowers! I would tell him how much you appreciated the gesture, how special it made you feel…and then I would tell him that you don’t want to risk any ill will when you are hoping to become friends …just a thought..
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I did the first part. I just e-mailed and it is funny that I said exactly what you said that I appreciate the gesture and felt special. I figure that he is bound to call me one of these days and I will see how the conversation unfolds. I hope not to have to have the “friends” talk again.
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oh wow he remembered dia dos namorados in the US! that is impressive!
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He travels to Brazil for business, still I was very impressed! Too bad there is absolutely no chemistry! 😦
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it seems like we just cant have it all 🙂
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or by the time we get it all we will be too old to know what to do with it ! LOL
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haha 🙂
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Is it a little creepy that he knows where you work or did you tell him where you worked on the date?
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we actually walked right by my building and I pointed that out, also we could have just googled my name and my work address comes up. There is really no creepy vibes from him!
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If you say so…
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lol I say so twindaddy! I happen to be an identical twin btw!
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Nice! Mine look identical, but we were told they were fraternal at birth.
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I actually don’t know what the doctor told my mom. She didn’t know she was having twins (no money for prenatal care at that time) We just assumed that we are identical, because even now at 46 and living apart for the past almost 28 years people still gets us mixed up.. You are blessed with 3 boys and a great wife! All the best!
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Thanks!
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It is a nice gesture but the fact that he, someone you told you just wanted to be friends with, tracked you down and sent you flowers on a day that is special to you and that few people in the States know of seems a bit stalker-ish to me. I am an overly nice guy who believes in being a gentleman, and I wouldn’t have done that after a woman made it clear she just wanted to be friends. That day is for couples and the two of you are not a couple.
Hopefully I’m wrong and everything turns out sunny.
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well, we had walked right by my job on our date and I pointed that out, also we could have googled my name and it is the first thing that comes up. He happens to travel to Brazil a lot and love all things Brazilian so I think he just wants to show me that he is learning the culture. And I think that he sees me as a friend, but at the same time I can’t blame a guy for trying. And I am also trying not to be my usual suspicious of everything self. I appreciate your comment and do understand how it looks! 🙂
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I understand all the cautionary words here and I probably should repeat them. But what if he’s just a very nice person who knew you’d been through a lot and wanted to make a nice gesture? Of course, he did send it on a rather strange day when you indicated you weren’t interested in him as a boyfriend. See, even I can’t let it rest!
You thanked him and if you truly don’t want to go out with him again, don’t respond to anything else.
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I am trying to just see the good side, but at the same time I appreciate the concern expressed by you and a couple of other bloggers. I do tend to be too trusting and think that people would behave in the same manner as I would – I really should know better by now!
Thank you so much, it is good to have different points of view! 🙂
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I say seek God first in everything no matter how big or small and allow God to lead your heart and not man. But when someone is showing love and kindness, we say thank you. Don’t speculate no need to, because God will reveal to you the true heart of someone on any given day.
Realize you have control of your heart when God is in the midst. But if we allow flesh to act we can be in for a dissappointment.
Blessings to you and I appreciate you stopping by Be Better Not Bitter to fellowship. Come again!
A Woman After God’s Own Heart ♥
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I too believe in that, the power of God and prayer and try to be guided by those. So I have thanked him and expressed how happy and special it made me feel. At the same time, in this day and age, one has to be a little careful and know that not everyone has best intentions on their mind. So I will pray, follow my heart and let God guide me, but at the same time I will use the mind the God gave me to make sure I am safe!
I appreciate your comment and writing and will visit your blog often. Your heart is in the right place! Blessing to you too! 🙂
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